Me and my finacee ( I guess is ex fiancee now ) been togther 2 years in last two years he is living with me but he does not paying any of my bills ,because he has his own place which he has to pay rent but he never stay there ,all his cloths are in my house and he never go his own place for the last two years . He is 28 and I am 38 . When we first start date ,I told him my age first he don't believe that I am 10 years older than him ,after he see my ID ,he told me all his ex girl friends are older than him ,and he loves muture woman ,so I deiced give it try because I really likes him .I found out he lies a lot . he told me he own a house which he didn't ,he told me he had 20,000 saving in his mother's saving account . and he told me he have collage degree
then I found out all those are lies . I love him so much and we have a lots of fun together ,I try break up with him so many times but every time he promiss me he will change and I always forgive him .he lie about everything ,one time he went back his hometown to vist his sister for a week ,he never aswer my phone and never call me once ,when he came back he told me he lost his phone ,then I found out he is laying ,I broken up with him right on the spot but somehow he tears made me give me one more chance. at that day ,he promissed me will never lie to me again . this was happened one year ago ,and after that I really see he change a lot , I was so happy and I am totally in love with him . I can see he became a much better person ,before he is a very irresponsible and immature person ,I put up with him because I know he has a big warm heart and he is a very lovable
person ,and he keeping telling me all his ex girl friends are cheated on him .his very last girl friend cheated on him when his is deployed ( he is in Navy ) he told me he already bought the ring for her ,but before he propose to her he found out she cheated on him so he broken up with him ,every time when he told me his story ,I will cry for him and I promised my self will never ever hurt his man and I will take care this man for ever. I do my best to take care him ,he doesen't know how to cook ,I will cook for him everyday after work and he will be playing his Xbox as soon as he got in the house ,until the dinner is ready .he never had do any Landry ,I take care every thing .I love to take care him and I am very happy . I pay all the bills .because I think I make more money than him and told him all I want is he can save money and pay off his credit card debts and I will be very happy .when we go out I will allway paid the bills but some times he will paid too . I have no problem at all because I love him and I don't care about the money .
I was very happy with him and he is really close to me ,everyday he will be home as soon as he can ,then he will play his Xbox till I gets in home and I cook the dinner ready for them ,I have two daughter live with us .he is very nice to the kids and kids loves him a lot .somt time I feel like he is my son because I have to do all the thing by myself .
I will give him everything I can , his birthday ,Xmas I will gave him very nice gift ,but he gave me nice gift as well .. I don't think I am his Suger MAMA ,because I never gave he money and he does gave me very nice gift too . he is the first man in my life will sent me flowers and he take me to all his family we spent thanks giving and Xmas with his family and we feel very welcomed by his family . But one thing is always borders me because he always talking with a girl on the phone almost every day ,they text each other back and forth every day and she will call him 3 am and stay one the phone for aleast 30 minus almost everyday ! He told me first she is his cousin ,but than I found out she is not ,he told me she lost his fiancee so she needs people to talk with ,at first I wasn't thinking that much ,but after 1 1/2 year ,he still never mention any thing to her he has girl friend and never ,I told him so many times I want to meet her but he always say maybe next time ,because she is not living in San Diego ,she in in Sacramento .When we in Sacramento,I asked him if we can meet her ,he always told me we don't have time ,but all his dose is playing cards with his cousin, I finally can't stand this anymore ,so I got her phone number from his phone and made a call to her ,she was nice I asked her very nice way ,I told her I just want know what kinda of realtion ship between them ,she told me they are just friend . When he is home I told him I made call to kim .he said to me %26quot; see ,I told you she just a friend %26quot; I told him I am not happy about it ,because I still think he and kim are more than just friend .I told him I don't know if I can stand this ,but I will try ..he asked me %26quot; do you want me to call her to tell her not to contact me anymore ? I said %26quot; I don't know what to do ,I guess I just have to make my choice stay in with you or not . he said : baby ..I am so in love with you and I will notHe is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?You have put everything into this relationship and I mean EVERYTHING! You have forgiven him over, over, and over only for him to keep breaking your heart and lying to you and making a fool of you.How do you know what to believe when everything from him has been nothing but a lie? He's a habitual liar and you know he was cheating you just know it hurts too much to accept it.You loved someone he pretended to be, an image that he portrayed. He didn't put forth any effort into wanting a relationship with you, but took advantage of your kindness, your home, your money and everything.It wasn't a healthy relationship because it was based on NOTHING but lies and deceit.He proposed to you to make you not suspect anything between him and Kim.With you hounding him about the cheating and lies, he knew he couldn't keep it up forever and called off the wedding.Hope can you believe him when he lies about everything? I think you're living in denial because reality hurts too much.You got nothing but heartache after heartache with him and the fact that he cheated on his ex tells you about his character, he is a CHEATER, a very selfish man.He takes all he can from someone to get what it is he is wanting at the time.Of course he's not going to admit to looking at underage porn because it's ILLEGAL.Sometimes we love someone with all of our hearts and do everything in our power to make them love us but the truth is, you can't make someone love you and obviously he never did by cheating,lying and taking advantage of your generosity. it doesn't matter if you make more money than a man that doesn't give a license to support them but a man that loves a woman would contribute.Don't try to rationazlize this behavior because there's no justification for it.It's just truly sad how he broke your heart but better now then after having married him.He's going to lie and lie to keep himself from getting caught about things he's doing wrong and the fact that you chopose to believe him is why he knows he can get away with it.You have self-esteem issues to tolerate such behavior and for so long and I highly recommend you get yourself into therapy for it and to get over this.Good LuckHe is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?uh..yes.He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?Oh my freaking god! This is NOT a question. This is a vent session from a 38 year old woman trying to grow a little boy up to man status. NOT going to happen. I didn't even have to read your novel to tell you that.He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?give it up already. he's a liar and he's not going to stop lying. for me, lying is a deal-breaker and he would have been long gone. He knows you are desperate for a man so he can play you all he wants because you are more afraid to be alone than you are to be with someone who lies and disrespects you.
take Amy's advice and dump him and put yourself out there to meet other people. don't waste any more time on him. once he's gone then you'll be available to find the person who you deserve. right now you are settling.
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if he's viewing kiddie porn then I'd be afraid to have him around my daughters. Pedophiles often move in with some desperate woman and then begin grooming her kids for abuse. The woman is then so invested in the creep that she ignores his bad qualities and willingly sacrifices her children for the sake of having a warm body in her bed.
LOSE THE CREEP. DON'T ENDANGER YOU DAUGHTERS. GET RID OF HIM BEFORE HE STARTS ABUSING THEM. OPEN YOUR EYES.He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ? You are dealing with a PLAYER I am sorry to say . The proper thing to do would be to hang up on the other woman and NOT to discuss the relationship beyond the man! If the man loves you he will notify you himself . Never stand in line for a # 2 position and always remember YOU CANNOT CONTROL how 2 ppl feel about each other. If they truely are friends then that is what it is and you will never change this . As for you marrying him . You are a fool until he proves himself . PS ... He may WANT you to call b/c he is insecure about the fact he NEEDS you to love him ....but really now ....DO YOU WANT A MAN who is not secure with his feelings and in the TRUST he wants from you . I hope you are stronger than that or your marraige will never last . GOOD LUCK . It is true what they say you know ...most men have a women in every port, or at least try to........... .... He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?You need to work on your self esteem and realize a leopard doesn't change its spots.It's sad what happened but you asked for it by allowing it for so long. As far as your daughters, with him being into kid porn, I would ask them if he ever touched them in the wrong way and BELIEVE them! Me pry on women with daughters to date to get to the daughters to sexually abuse.You need to get out of denai fast and worry and find out if he ever did anything to your daughters and you probably think he never would but ask them and make sure they understand what you're asking them.Kids keep that stuff a secret because they're too scaredand ashamed to tell anyone! It's important you think about them and find out.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?
What do you do with a teen age boy that is a compulsive liar, does basically whatever he wants even thou his dad has told not too, Never completes chores waits till last minute, Very disrespectful to his dad. From divorced parents, been living with dad since 5, daughter has been living with mom, Dad afraid to punish all the way due to the fact he might want to move, How do you handle a kid like this , I say be a lot stricter, Im the girl friend. what would make an impact on this boy. thanks . We have taken away Xbox, full usage of cell phone, computer use, also grades going down.What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?boot campWhat would make this 15 year old Change and listen?You put his a*s on complete lock down!
And dont worry about him moving, he still has visitation.What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?do not get stricter..
this was me[only i am a girl] a few years ago..
and the more punishment my parents gave me, the worse i got.
start out with smaller priveleges back.. let him kno tht yer willing to trust him.. and he will wan2 have his freedom back..
it helped me..
%26amp; im sure it will him too.What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?I was gonna suggest you beat him with a belt. But your his dads girlfriends. You have no rights to touch him.
What about his mom. Where is she in the picture?What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?I'd say tell him he can gradually earn his rights back if he changes his attitude n ways.
And dont worry about him moving, he still has visitation.What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?do not get stricter..
this was me[only i am a girl] a few years ago..
and the more punishment my parents gave me, the worse i got.
start out with smaller priveleges back.. let him kno tht yer willing to trust him.. and he will wan2 have his freedom back..
it helped me..
%26amp; im sure it will him too.What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?I was gonna suggest you beat him with a belt. But your his dads girlfriends. You have no rights to touch him.
What about his mom. Where is she in the picture?What would make this 15 year old Change and listen?I'd say tell him he can gradually earn his rights back if he changes his attitude n ways.
Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?
Okay well i dont have my pss word to my laptop.
Yesterday my sisters boyfriend was saying how he was going to screw up my xbox live account. So i put a code on my account didnt stop him from playing i just stopped him from playing my account, he is an asshole he did it once and it took me ages to get it back up so i didnt want him to do it again (he has his own account btw).
Anyway he changed the password on my laptop and i need to get in any programs that would get me in ????
Its windows 7, i have a toshiba satelite laptop and i am willing to reboot the whole laptop but i dont no how anyone no how i can get my password back?,Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?I would like to introduce Windows Password Recovery Tool 3.0 . it not only supports XP, 2000, and NT, I have personally tested it with Vista and windows 7. It works perfectly to reset any local user account to a blank password. I Wrote it to an old 128mb USB flash drive do this. Booting up and clearing a password takes a minute or two works like a charm. It also supports cd/dvd.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Im guessing your at a library...Anyways bash your sisters boyfriend and keep bashing him until he tells you the password.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Most of the time to be able to reboot you have to go to a computer place. Most of them can do it but as for doing it at home you can check your owners manualHelp forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Press F12 at start up to enter system recovery and then reset the password, you should not let others use your lap top or the administrator account. Set up a guest account with no password for others to use and give no one your password write it down and keep in safe place just in case you forget it.
Press F2 at start up to enter set up and reset password.
If above does not work only other option is call Toshiba for guiding you through entering the BIOS and resetting the password or using a set of recovery disc made for the lap top and installing new OS.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?when you turn on your computer, press F8 and then select boot in safe mode. Once your computer powers up in safe mode click the start menu, and then on the username picture, and then click delete password. or click control panel- user accounts - delete password
if when your computer turns on it tells you on the bottom of the screen to press a different button to start in safe mode press it instead of f8Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?It can be reset to blank with offline NT password editor google it. It make a boot CD to reset the password. I can help lots with this and guide you through it you should ask me here http://www.mypcmates.comHelp forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Try this to reset the password without knowing it:
1. Enter a computer that can link to Internet. Download windows login recovery and install the software on that computer.
2. Run the software and create windows password reset disk by follow the instructions.
3. Eject the created CD/DVD and insert it into the locked computer.
4. Reboot the locked computer (it's necessary for you to change your locked computer's BIOS setting to make it boot from CD drive) and then follow the instructions to reset your password.
5. Now login Windows and set a new password.
Yesterday my sisters boyfriend was saying how he was going to screw up my xbox live account. So i put a code on my account didnt stop him from playing i just stopped him from playing my account, he is an asshole he did it once and it took me ages to get it back up so i didnt want him to do it again (he has his own account btw).
Anyway he changed the password on my laptop and i need to get in any programs that would get me in ????
Its windows 7, i have a toshiba satelite laptop and i am willing to reboot the whole laptop but i dont no how anyone no how i can get my password back?,Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?I would like to introduce Windows Password Recovery Tool 3.0 . it not only supports XP, 2000, and NT, I have personally tested it with Vista and windows 7. It works perfectly to reset any local user account to a blank password. I Wrote it to an old 128mb USB flash drive do this. Booting up and clearing a password takes a minute or two works like a charm. It also supports cd/dvd.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Im guessing your at a library...Anyways bash your sisters boyfriend and keep bashing him until he tells you the password.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Most of the time to be able to reboot you have to go to a computer place. Most of them can do it but as for doing it at home you can check your owners manualHelp forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Press F12 at start up to enter system recovery and then reset the password, you should not let others use your lap top or the administrator account. Set up a guest account with no password for others to use and give no one your password write it down and keep in safe place just in case you forget it.
Press F2 at start up to enter set up and reset password.
If above does not work only other option is call Toshiba for guiding you through entering the BIOS and resetting the password or using a set of recovery disc made for the lap top and installing new OS.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?when you turn on your computer, press F8 and then select boot in safe mode. Once your computer powers up in safe mode click the start menu, and then on the username picture, and then click delete password. or click control panel- user accounts - delete password
if when your computer turns on it tells you on the bottom of the screen to press a different button to start in safe mode press it instead of f8Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?It can be reset to blank with offline NT password editor google it. It make a boot CD to reset the password. I can help lots with this and guide you through it you should ask me here http://www.mypcmates.comHelp forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Try this to reset the password without knowing it:
1. Enter a computer that can link to Internet. Download windows login recovery and install the software on that computer.
2. Run the software and create windows password reset disk by follow the instructions.
3. Eject the created CD/DVD and insert it into the locked computer.
4. Reboot the locked computer (it's necessary for you to change your locked computer's BIOS setting to make it boot from CD drive) and then follow the instructions to reset your password.
5. Now login Windows and set a new password.
Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?
Okay well i dont have my pss word to my laptop.
Yesterday my sisters boyfriend was saying how he was going to screw up my xbox live account. So i put a code on my account didnt stop him from playing i just stopped him from playing my account, he is an asshole he did it once and it took me ages to get it back up so i didnt want him to do it again (he has his own account btw).
Anyway he changed the password on my laptop and i need to get in any programs that would get me in ????
Its windows 7, i have a toshiba satelite laptop and i am willing to reboot the whole laptop but i dont no how anyone no how i can get my password back?,Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Most of us have a PC at home and one at work. We use our work PC most of the times and home PC comparatively less. Had it ever happen to you that you forgot your Windows password? Maybe you go for a month long vacations or business trip and when you are back, you may forget some of your passwords to the PC. We tend to have lots of passwords at work, online and at various computers. So to save yourself from a locked out situation, we recommend that you create a password reset disk. In this article, I will share with you a very simple method to create a Windows 7 password reset pen drive. So next time you are locked out of Windows 7 at the login screen, you can plug in this USB pen drive in your computer and reset Windows 7 password.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Follow the easy steps below to remove Windows password:
1.Download Windows Password Unlocker from Password Unlocker Official site
2.Decompress the Windows password unlocker and note that there is an .ISO image file. Burn the image file onto an blank CD with the burner freely supported by Password Unlocker.
3.Insert the newly created CD into the locked computer and re-boot it from the CD drive.
4.After launched the CD, a window pop up with all your account names(if you have several accounts); select one of the accounts that you have forgotten its password to reset it. Just one press, you have removed the password.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?It's very easy and useful to reset local administrator and user passwords on Windows 7 system.
Get started with the download - 3 simple steps:
Step 1 - Download Windows Password Recovery Tool 3.0
Step 2 -Burn your Windows Password Recovery CD:
To burn your CD, you'll need a blank CD-R and the .ISO file of Windows Password Recovery.
Step 3 - Put in your newly created CD and remove your Windows password.
It also supports usb drive.
Hope it helps.cat removing contact lenses
Yesterday my sisters boyfriend was saying how he was going to screw up my xbox live account. So i put a code on my account didnt stop him from playing i just stopped him from playing my account, he is an asshole he did it once and it took me ages to get it back up so i didnt want him to do it again (he has his own account btw).
Anyway he changed the password on my laptop and i need to get in any programs that would get me in ????
Its windows 7, i have a toshiba satelite laptop and i am willing to reboot the whole laptop but i dont no how anyone no how i can get my password back?,Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Most of us have a PC at home and one at work. We use our work PC most of the times and home PC comparatively less. Had it ever happen to you that you forgot your Windows password? Maybe you go for a month long vacations or business trip and when you are back, you may forget some of your passwords to the PC. We tend to have lots of passwords at work, online and at various computers. So to save yourself from a locked out situation, we recommend that you create a password reset disk. In this article, I will share with you a very simple method to create a Windows 7 password reset pen drive. So next time you are locked out of Windows 7 at the login screen, you can plug in this USB pen drive in your computer and reset Windows 7 password.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?Follow the easy steps below to remove Windows password:
1.Download Windows Password Unlocker from Password Unlocker Official site
2.Decompress the Windows password unlocker and note that there is an .ISO image file. Burn the image file onto an blank CD with the burner freely supported by Password Unlocker.
3.Insert the newly created CD into the locked computer and re-boot it from the CD drive.
4.After launched the CD, a window pop up with all your account names(if you have several accounts); select one of the accounts that you have forgotten its password to reset it. Just one press, you have removed the password.Help forgott my password to my laptop PLEASE help!?It's very easy and useful to reset local administrator and user passwords on Windows 7 system.
Get started with the download - 3 simple steps:
Step 1 - Download Windows Password Recovery Tool 3.0
Step 2 -Burn your Windows Password Recovery CD:
To burn your CD, you'll need a blank CD-R and the .ISO file of Windows Password Recovery.
Step 3 - Put in your newly created CD and remove your Windows password.
It also supports usb drive.
Hope it helps.
I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?
the story is, is that im going into tenth grade im really supposed to be in ninth so im pretty far back in puberty, i can tell im develpoing, like just over the summer i have gotten from 5,4 to like almost 5,7 but my voice shows almost no isgns of changing, i have also put on almost six punds over the summer, but im going into tenth grade and it seem as everyone else is more outgoing and more developed than me, im a more well know quiet kid that has a bunch of friends, thats practically what and who i am, but it just sucks seing how some of my friends joke around about how much younger and less developed than them, i fit in with every one, just not as far in puberty, its super not cool. also if any one is familiar with xbox live, you can have a mic and talk to people through the game, its awesome, only problem is, is that half the people are douche bags they think i lie about my age when they here me, but who cares ill never see them any way. Any way this is just a question on whether or not when puberty comes, and what are the usual %26quot;stages%26quot; so called. so id really appreciate any advice for tenth grade and puberty!! thanx ; xI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?dude my friend sounds like a freaking girl and he has almost had sex. he gonna in like 2 years. he's 13. hes made out with chicks. had better girlfriends then any of his other friends including me. just go with the flow and dont be hatin'I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?so what if you a baby face?
your friends kid with you
and just pretend to be a black guy when your on live
and if you have a high voice, you could be come a great singer! no lie!I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?I just got out of the tenth grade, and i did alot of growing up during the school year. You just gotta be yourself, and you sound like you don't really pay too much attention to the people that make fun of you, which is really good. Just be patient, your body will mature when it thinks it's ready. Everyone else's body may just be a little faster, but trust me, when you catch up....You will be just as developed as everyone else. Just give it a little time... Good LuckI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?come back to up when you have pubes little buddyI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?Hey dude. I am a freshman in high school, and I am just starting puberty. I have had a growth spurt, now I'm 6'2 and weigh 210 pounds, but I work out and do jogs and everything. I know how it is. Don't stress bro, you can do it. Let nature take its course. God made you who you are and you should be proud of that. If your friends think that your not developed or your not normal or whatever, screw them. You are who you are man. Let's do it. Later, hope I helped.I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?i guess i am the same, i could be in ninth grade, but im in tenth...who cares? by senior year, everyone will be the same...dont worry about it, people understand even thoguh they make fun of you for itI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?Your voice will change unless you are Joe Pesci or Sanjaya from American Idol
You posted your question on my question now here is my vengeance
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?two more years and you will be in the real world where people could give a crap less.I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?This link might help you
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puberty
your friends kid with you
and just pretend to be a black guy when your on live
and if you have a high voice, you could be come a great singer! no lie!I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?I just got out of the tenth grade, and i did alot of growing up during the school year. You just gotta be yourself, and you sound like you don't really pay too much attention to the people that make fun of you, which is really good. Just be patient, your body will mature when it thinks it's ready. Everyone else's body may just be a little faster, but trust me, when you catch up....You will be just as developed as everyone else. Just give it a little time... Good LuckI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?come back to up when you have pubes little buddyI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?Hey dude. I am a freshman in high school, and I am just starting puberty. I have had a growth spurt, now I'm 6'2 and weigh 210 pounds, but I work out and do jogs and everything. I know how it is. Don't stress bro, you can do it. Let nature take its course. God made you who you are and you should be proud of that. If your friends think that your not developed or your not normal or whatever, screw them. You are who you are man. Let's do it. Later, hope I helped.I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?i guess i am the same, i could be in ninth grade, but im in tenth...who cares? by senior year, everyone will be the same...dont worry about it, people understand even thoguh they make fun of you for itI need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?Your voice will change unless you are Joe Pesci or Sanjaya from American Idol
You posted your question on my question now here is my vengeance
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?two more years and you will be in the real world where people could give a crap less.I need some advice for tenth grade boy and puberty, please help,=(?This link might help you
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puberty
How to say goodbye to eight years....?
The hardest thing about considering saying goodbye to my boyfriend of eight years is that I don%26#039;t want to leave the person. I wanted him to be the one I married, and he hasn%26#039;t left me because he does want me there too. But this thanksgiving has made me feel like I really can%26#039;t do it anymore. It was a breaking point.
I juggled my schedule around so that I could spend time with my family and him on Thanksgiving. A year ago at this time I told him how much Holidays bothered me as him as my boyfriend because not only does he not come to visit my family (which is 15 minutes away from his family) but he does so because he can%26#039;t break away from his because then he would have to explain to his mom that maybe he has a girlfriend. We%26#039;re 23 and 24 years old and a year ago our holiday and family situation was suppose to be worked on and fixed by now.
Now yet another holiday I%26#039;m the only one that doesn%26#039;t have a significant other with my family wondering if I%26#039;m still dating the same guy and wondering where he is.
I asked him if he was bringing his little brother back to town with him for the weekend five times, and he continued to say NO! Now the night before he is to arrive home he informs me his little brother is indeed coming back with him. Family is important to me so I don%26#039;t mind him being with his family. But what bothers me is his schedule always changes so that he can sleep in, or see his family longer, or if they%26#039;re in town he takes off, but never changes his work schedule for our time together. But the most bothering is the excessiveness his brother comes over.
And it%26#039;s sad to see two brothers who essentially only have each other. My boyfriend basically could care less if he sees people as long as he%26#039;s got someone on xbox live or his brother there. Even me he doesn%26#039;t seem to care. And a 13 and 14 year old I would think would want to spend time with friends or make friends his age or think about girlfriends but all he does is ask to come over for weeks at a time. Last summer he was around for 6 weeks, and the summer before 6 weeks. All he does is bum around the couch playing one video game after another from 10am to 2am...no friends... nothing.
Then MEA weekend he%26#039;s there for four days, and Thanksgiving break he%26#039;s there for a half a week, and Christmas time it%26#039;s two weeks.
My boyfriend said we%26#039;d discuss and make the next holiday better (Christmas) but i feel like I%26#039;ve heard that before. I feel like I will spend yet another holiday not being able to call or see my bf who is just miles away just because his family is in control and doesn%26#039;t want our relationship to exist. I dont want to leave the person because when his brother isn%26#039;t around or he%26#039;s back on his own where he works he%26#039;s a pretty decent guy. But the holidays are always a time that make me so depressed and remind me how much our relationship doesn%26#039;t seem very serious like it use to.
How do I say goodbye to an eight year relationship.....How to say goodbye to eight years....?wow this is so tough.. im so sorry it had to be like this for you
maybe the best way to do it is find time and sit down just the two of u in a private place like ur apartment or something. and have a long talk about all of it. (talk as in break up speech) think of what u want to say and make sure that gets across to him. try not to get mad with each other and try to stay as calm as possible. i hope you find your happiness again. you will find a guy that will satisfy you and make you happy.
GOOD LUCK HUN!How to say goodbye to eight years....?you don%26#039;t need to say goodbye, if you love him and he loves you get married, it%26#039;s clear that your both very in love. remember your marring him, not his familyHow to say goodbye to eight years....?Wow sounds like the same thing that happened to my oldest sister. She dated a guy for 8 years I always thought they would get married he was part of our family. The truth is the reason they lasted so long is because thats all they ever knew was to be together and not try new things. A year later my sister met a guy who is her fiance now. Anyways I dont want to sound cruel but if you do break up with him don%26#039;t try and be friends. Cold turkey is the only way break up and move on or you will be heart broken for so much longer. How to say goodbye to eight years....?you HAVE to talk to him about it NOW
you have too much to just say goodbye and leave him
TALK TO HIM ABOUT ITHow to say goodbye to eight years....?yes its hard but hes a little boy not a man.. if his mum dose the looking after his life.. and not you .. just dump him ..or kick the jurk out.. as you must come first not his mum .. good luck.. How to say goodbye to eight years....?is the holidays all that matters? you have to think about the rest of the year. is is the same way? or are you happy the rest of the year?How to say goodbye to eight years....?Wow..this is weird...im having trouble with my boyfriend and we are 14/15 and im trying to find a way to say goodbye too..i don%26#039;t know but its hard to say goodbye...maybe you shouldn%26#039;t, every relationship cant be perfect and there are they downfalls..but don%26#039;t listen to be im 14 years old.How to say goodbye to eight years....?It%26#039;s the hardest thing. But one of the most important things you need to do is say this to him. I really think for you to have a closure, you need to put this all out to him-he needs to know--because if he doesn%26#039;t then it will just seem like there was no problems. When in fact there was, and what was more important was that it was over time....it added up, till it became unbearable.
So, haev a heart to heart talk with your boyfriend. And if you totally cannot, then maybe write him a letter. I would type it out, just cuz I am not a big fan of leaving %26quot;handwritten%26quot; letters trailing behind when I move on. But sometimes it%26#039;s hard to say these things in person...so writing is a form of release. Write it and send it to him...let him know, and then see how he reacts. If you can have a talk with him,t hat%26#039;s good...but if you want to leave it that way, that%26#039;s also fine.
Basically, you need to let him know, only then can you get any closure...
hope this helps,
I am sorry to hear about this,
Hopefully things will work out for you-:)How to say goodbye to eight years....?You just gotta say goodbye. Its hard. If family is that important to you ,it is me too, then you need someone who will make the time. Im sure you love him, but thats ridiculous.How to say goodbye to eight years....?its is not that he is perfect but...
are you perfect for each other
there will always be tenion u just got to work around itHow to say goodbye to eight years....?i dont think you need to say bye just yet. tlk to him about it one last time. tell him ur tlking to him now, but next time your just gunna pack your bags. give him a choice..does he want you or not! and if he does, he better act like itHow to say goodbye to eight years....?ok if this guy wont even spend time with you and your family i would rethink his commitment to you to begin with. just sounds like he thinks only of himself. you are making your schedule around him but he wont for you. if you marry him, it will only get worse as he will expect more from you but with no intent on doing the same in return.
selfish people demand others to do for them but refuse to do for others and all marriage will do is increase they expectations he will have for you.
what i would do is talk to him and just say %26quot;listen love, we%26#039;ve been together 8 years and yet you still refuse to spend time with me and my family on holidays. that will need to change because i can%26#039;t spend the rest of my life with someone who wont even spend time with me and my family on the holidays specially when its not going out of your way to do so.%26quot;.
you have make him choose the relationship and doing what is needed to make you both happy or have him walk if he wont do anything but the things he is ok with doing. you wont be happy in the end if all your doing is giving and all he is doing is taking. 8 years gone is better then a lifetime of suffering.How to say goodbye to eight years....?Just let him know that you want him but unless he is ready to give you some sort of a sign or make an appearence at christmas with you then your going to move on. If he cares for you he will `do try to make you happy. How to say goodbye to eight years....?know how u feel its never easy.funny enough since my bf and i have been 2gether for 4 yrs we have only spen 2 christmas together because my family gets upset and wants me home with them. did you aactually see this little brother on several occasions with your own eye? if not then it could be someone else.are you absolutely sure he is ALWAys around family? not saying he%26#039;s cheating. I dont bring my boyfriend around my house and i dont talk about him around my father.my dad has certain expectations so i pretend he%26#039;s non-existent which use to bother my bf a lot but my dad knew all along and recently seems to accept t better than i thought. i can see how ur bf might feel pressure not to have u around.im 22 and my bf is 26.did he tell u why its hard to have u around though. not saying he%26#039;s guilty but ensure he%26#039;s spending time where he says as for u i think he%26#039;s gonna expect u to keep taking a backseat for christmas which is sad. i dont think u should throw away 8 years because of christmas but he needs to spend some time even 2 hrs on that special day if that is what ur saying.i sneak out of the house on christmas to go see my boo then get back in time for family gatherings. i usually tell them i went to go look for something i wanted to buy but didn%26#039;t get it. does he have guy fiends he could use as excuses. seeing he lives 15 mins from u sneaking out now and then shouldnt be to hard. understand how u feel but dont think much wiill change but dont think u should throw away 8 years for thatHow to say goodbye to eight years....? I think you need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel,and why it hurts your feelings,and he needs to grow up.I know, it%26#039;s easier said then done ! Guy%26#039;s are slow about maturing,and some time%26#039;s a wake up call is order...If it%26#039;s mainly about the family,and friends,maybe you could get a calender and work out at least a month ahead of time,write down the days you want him to come to your family,and his,and friends, and see if you both can agree to something that would make you both happy,write it down %26quot;with him%26quot;,and maybe you could come up with something that could make you,at least content...Relationship is not a 50/50 deal,sometimes you have to give more, and he does also.If you feel it%26#039;s better to give in more sometimes that%26#039;s great,but you need to stand your ground when you think your right,and he should give.You have 8 years in your relationship,and if you really love him,and he really loves you,you can overcome all obstacles.If he doesn%26#039;t want to try to work any of this out,I think you should end it....If he is understanding,and wants to try to make it work,and you too, that%26#039;s a plus for both of you.Honesty,from both of you, and telling him how you feel are to me the best thing to helping a relationship....
I juggled my schedule around so that I could spend time with my family and him on Thanksgiving. A year ago at this time I told him how much Holidays bothered me as him as my boyfriend because not only does he not come to visit my family (which is 15 minutes away from his family) but he does so because he can%26#039;t break away from his because then he would have to explain to his mom that maybe he has a girlfriend. We%26#039;re 23 and 24 years old and a year ago our holiday and family situation was suppose to be worked on and fixed by now.
Now yet another holiday I%26#039;m the only one that doesn%26#039;t have a significant other with my family wondering if I%26#039;m still dating the same guy and wondering where he is.
I asked him if he was bringing his little brother back to town with him for the weekend five times, and he continued to say NO! Now the night before he is to arrive home he informs me his little brother is indeed coming back with him. Family is important to me so I don%26#039;t mind him being with his family. But what bothers me is his schedule always changes so that he can sleep in, or see his family longer, or if they%26#039;re in town he takes off, but never changes his work schedule for our time together. But the most bothering is the excessiveness his brother comes over.
And it%26#039;s sad to see two brothers who essentially only have each other. My boyfriend basically could care less if he sees people as long as he%26#039;s got someone on xbox live or his brother there. Even me he doesn%26#039;t seem to care. And a 13 and 14 year old I would think would want to spend time with friends or make friends his age or think about girlfriends but all he does is ask to come over for weeks at a time. Last summer he was around for 6 weeks, and the summer before 6 weeks. All he does is bum around the couch playing one video game after another from 10am to 2am...no friends... nothing.
Then MEA weekend he%26#039;s there for four days, and Thanksgiving break he%26#039;s there for a half a week, and Christmas time it%26#039;s two weeks.
My boyfriend said we%26#039;d discuss and make the next holiday better (Christmas) but i feel like I%26#039;ve heard that before. I feel like I will spend yet another holiday not being able to call or see my bf who is just miles away just because his family is in control and doesn%26#039;t want our relationship to exist. I dont want to leave the person because when his brother isn%26#039;t around or he%26#039;s back on his own where he works he%26#039;s a pretty decent guy. But the holidays are always a time that make me so depressed and remind me how much our relationship doesn%26#039;t seem very serious like it use to.
How do I say goodbye to an eight year relationship.....How to say goodbye to eight years....?wow this is so tough.. im so sorry it had to be like this for you
maybe the best way to do it is find time and sit down just the two of u in a private place like ur apartment or something. and have a long talk about all of it. (talk as in break up speech) think of what u want to say and make sure that gets across to him. try not to get mad with each other and try to stay as calm as possible. i hope you find your happiness again. you will find a guy that will satisfy you and make you happy.
GOOD LUCK HUN!How to say goodbye to eight years....?you don%26#039;t need to say goodbye, if you love him and he loves you get married, it%26#039;s clear that your both very in love. remember your marring him, not his familyHow to say goodbye to eight years....?Wow sounds like the same thing that happened to my oldest sister. She dated a guy for 8 years I always thought they would get married he was part of our family. The truth is the reason they lasted so long is because thats all they ever knew was to be together and not try new things. A year later my sister met a guy who is her fiance now. Anyways I dont want to sound cruel but if you do break up with him don%26#039;t try and be friends. Cold turkey is the only way break up and move on or you will be heart broken for so much longer. How to say goodbye to eight years....?you HAVE to talk to him about it NOW
you have too much to just say goodbye and leave him
TALK TO HIM ABOUT ITHow to say goodbye to eight years....?yes its hard but hes a little boy not a man.. if his mum dose the looking after his life.. and not you .. just dump him ..or kick the jurk out.. as you must come first not his mum .. good luck.. How to say goodbye to eight years....?is the holidays all that matters? you have to think about the rest of the year. is is the same way? or are you happy the rest of the year?How to say goodbye to eight years....?Wow..this is weird...im having trouble with my boyfriend and we are 14/15 and im trying to find a way to say goodbye too..i don%26#039;t know but its hard to say goodbye...maybe you shouldn%26#039;t, every relationship cant be perfect and there are they downfalls..but don%26#039;t listen to be im 14 years old.How to say goodbye to eight years....?It%26#039;s the hardest thing. But one of the most important things you need to do is say this to him. I really think for you to have a closure, you need to put this all out to him-he needs to know--because if he doesn%26#039;t then it will just seem like there was no problems. When in fact there was, and what was more important was that it was over time....it added up, till it became unbearable.
So, haev a heart to heart talk with your boyfriend. And if you totally cannot, then maybe write him a letter. I would type it out, just cuz I am not a big fan of leaving %26quot;handwritten%26quot; letters trailing behind when I move on. But sometimes it%26#039;s hard to say these things in person...so writing is a form of release. Write it and send it to him...let him know, and then see how he reacts. If you can have a talk with him,t hat%26#039;s good...but if you want to leave it that way, that%26#039;s also fine.
Basically, you need to let him know, only then can you get any closure...
hope this helps,
I am sorry to hear about this,
Hopefully things will work out for you-:)How to say goodbye to eight years....?You just gotta say goodbye. Its hard. If family is that important to you ,it is me too, then you need someone who will make the time. Im sure you love him, but thats ridiculous.How to say goodbye to eight years....?its is not that he is perfect but...
are you perfect for each other
there will always be tenion u just got to work around itHow to say goodbye to eight years....?i dont think you need to say bye just yet. tlk to him about it one last time. tell him ur tlking to him now, but next time your just gunna pack your bags. give him a choice..does he want you or not! and if he does, he better act like itHow to say goodbye to eight years....?ok if this guy wont even spend time with you and your family i would rethink his commitment to you to begin with. just sounds like he thinks only of himself. you are making your schedule around him but he wont for you. if you marry him, it will only get worse as he will expect more from you but with no intent on doing the same in return.
selfish people demand others to do for them but refuse to do for others and all marriage will do is increase they expectations he will have for you.
what i would do is talk to him and just say %26quot;listen love, we%26#039;ve been together 8 years and yet you still refuse to spend time with me and my family on holidays. that will need to change because i can%26#039;t spend the rest of my life with someone who wont even spend time with me and my family on the holidays specially when its not going out of your way to do so.%26quot;.
you have make him choose the relationship and doing what is needed to make you both happy or have him walk if he wont do anything but the things he is ok with doing. you wont be happy in the end if all your doing is giving and all he is doing is taking. 8 years gone is better then a lifetime of suffering.How to say goodbye to eight years....?Just let him know that you want him but unless he is ready to give you some sort of a sign or make an appearence at christmas with you then your going to move on. If he cares for you he will `do try to make you happy. How to say goodbye to eight years....?know how u feel its never easy.funny enough since my bf and i have been 2gether for 4 yrs we have only spen 2 christmas together because my family gets upset and wants me home with them. did you aactually see this little brother on several occasions with your own eye? if not then it could be someone else.are you absolutely sure he is ALWAys around family? not saying he%26#039;s cheating. I dont bring my boyfriend around my house and i dont talk about him around my father.my dad has certain expectations so i pretend he%26#039;s non-existent which use to bother my bf a lot but my dad knew all along and recently seems to accept t better than i thought. i can see how ur bf might feel pressure not to have u around.im 22 and my bf is 26.did he tell u why its hard to have u around though. not saying he%26#039;s guilty but ensure he%26#039;s spending time where he says as for u i think he%26#039;s gonna expect u to keep taking a backseat for christmas which is sad. i dont think u should throw away 8 years because of christmas but he needs to spend some time even 2 hrs on that special day if that is what ur saying.i sneak out of the house on christmas to go see my boo then get back in time for family gatherings. i usually tell them i went to go look for something i wanted to buy but didn%26#039;t get it. does he have guy fiends he could use as excuses. seeing he lives 15 mins from u sneaking out now and then shouldnt be to hard. understand how u feel but dont think much wiill change but dont think u should throw away 8 years for thatHow to say goodbye to eight years....? I think you need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel,and why it hurts your feelings,and he needs to grow up.I know, it%26#039;s easier said then done ! Guy%26#039;s are slow about maturing,and some time%26#039;s a wake up call is order...If it%26#039;s mainly about the family,and friends,maybe you could get a calender and work out at least a month ahead of time,write down the days you want him to come to your family,and his,and friends, and see if you both can agree to something that would make you both happy,write it down %26quot;with him%26quot;,and maybe you could come up with something that could make you,at least content...Relationship is not a 50/50 deal,sometimes you have to give more, and he does also.If you feel it%26#039;s better to give in more sometimes that%26#039;s great,but you need to stand your ground when you think your right,and he should give.You have 8 years in your relationship,and if you really love him,and he really loves you,you can overcome all obstacles.If he doesn%26#039;t want to try to work any of this out,I think you should end it....If he is understanding,and wants to try to make it work,and you too, that%26#039;s a plus for both of you.Honesty,from both of you, and telling him how you feel are to me the best thing to helping a relationship....
My 14 year old son's anger issues... am I alone with this? (parents only please)?
Okay so this morning before school my son (14) was playing XBOX Live and something happened to it so it could not connect to the internet suddenly....
He got so angry to the point he cried (he VERY rarely cries).
Now you are probably thinking all he does is play video games, but actually he doesn't... He has a very busy schedule, gets good grades in school (although gets in fights sometimes), and play Varsity Basketball as well as AAU basketball, and he is a very popular kid.
He uses the XBOX as a relaxing time, and plays for about 1.5 to 2 hours a day, on top of a total of 3.5 hours of basketball practice a day and school.
He just seems to have a very short/hot temper...
Sometimes it feels like the smallest of things can set him off, the other day he got in trouble at school and a referal because he got in a fight because another kid tripped when they were changing classes and bumped into my son (Kobe) as he tripped, so Kobe ended up pushing this kid which made a fight start.
Okay so my question is do any of your kids around the same age as my son ever get like this over something very small, and if so, how do you deal with it? How do you handle them during and after their anger moments?
Many ThanksMy 14 year old son's anger issues... am I alone with this? (parents only please)?I'm a 16 year old guy and I used to have a really short temper when I was 13-14. I got a week out of school suspension for getting into 3 fights in a week.
Around the time I turned 15ish, it just went away. It probably had something to do with puberty/hormones.
Hope this helps and best of luck with your son.My 14 year old son's anger issues... am I alone with this? (parents only please)?He's at an age where his hormones are surging, which can cause mood swings in males just as easily as in females. He also probaby feels he has a lot on his plate, what with school and sports. But as his parent, you need to constantly remind him how his actions could effect his life. Getting angry is a normal human emotion, but how we deal with it is what makes all the difference. Maybe get a book on coping techniques for anger, like counting to 10. It's not going to change over night, but he needs to be aware of this issue before he can start working on it.
He got so angry to the point he cried (he VERY rarely cries).
Now you are probably thinking all he does is play video games, but actually he doesn't... He has a very busy schedule, gets good grades in school (although gets in fights sometimes), and play Varsity Basketball as well as AAU basketball, and he is a very popular kid.
He uses the XBOX as a relaxing time, and plays for about 1.5 to 2 hours a day, on top of a total of 3.5 hours of basketball practice a day and school.
He just seems to have a very short/hot temper...
Sometimes it feels like the smallest of things can set him off, the other day he got in trouble at school and a referal because he got in a fight because another kid tripped when they were changing classes and bumped into my son (Kobe) as he tripped, so Kobe ended up pushing this kid which made a fight start.
Okay so my question is do any of your kids around the same age as my son ever get like this over something very small, and if so, how do you deal with it? How do you handle them during and after their anger moments?
Many ThanksMy 14 year old son's anger issues... am I alone with this? (parents only please)?I'm a 16 year old guy and I used to have a really short temper when I was 13-14. I got a week out of school suspension for getting into 3 fights in a week.
Around the time I turned 15ish, it just went away. It probably had something to do with puberty/hormones.
Hope this helps and best of luck with your son.My 14 year old son's anger issues... am I alone with this? (parents only please)?He's at an age where his hormones are surging, which can cause mood swings in males just as easily as in females. He also probaby feels he has a lot on his plate, what with school and sports. But as his parent, you need to constantly remind him how his actions could effect his life. Getting angry is a normal human emotion, but how we deal with it is what makes all the difference. Maybe get a book on coping techniques for anger, like counting to 10. It's not going to change over night, but he needs to be aware of this issue before he can start working on it.
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