Me and my finacee ( I guess is ex fiancee now ) been togther 2 years in last two years he is living with me but he does not paying any of my bills ,because he has his own place which he has to pay rent but he never stay there ,all his cloths are in my house and he never go his own place for the last two years . He is 28 and I am 38 . When we first start date ,I told him my age first he don't believe that I am 10 years older than him ,after he see my ID ,he told me all his ex girl friends are older than him ,and he loves muture woman ,so I deiced give it try because I really likes him .I found out he lies a lot . he told me he own a house which he didn't ,he told me he had 20,000 saving in his mother's saving account . and he told me he have collage degree
then I found out all those are lies . I love him so much and we have a lots of fun together ,I try break up with him so many times but every time he promiss me he will change and I always forgive him .he lie about everything ,one time he went back his hometown to vist his sister for a week ,he never aswer my phone and never call me once ,when he came back he told me he lost his phone ,then I found out he is laying ,I broken up with him right on the spot but somehow he tears made me give me one more chance. at that day ,he promissed me will never lie to me again . this was happened one year ago ,and after that I really see he change a lot , I was so happy and I am totally in love with him . I can see he became a much better person ,before he is a very irresponsible and immature person ,I put up with him because I know he has a big warm heart and he is a very lovable
person ,and he keeping telling me all his ex girl friends are cheated on him .his very last girl friend cheated on him when his is deployed ( he is in Navy ) he told me he already bought the ring for her ,but before he propose to her he found out she cheated on him so he broken up with him ,every time when he told me his story ,I will cry for him and I promised my self will never ever hurt his man and I will take care this man for ever. I do my best to take care him ,he doesen't know how to cook ,I will cook for him everyday after work and he will be playing his Xbox as soon as he got in the house ,until the dinner is ready .he never had do any Landry ,I take care every thing .I love to take care him and I am very happy . I pay all the bills .because I think I make more money than him and told him all I want is he can save money and pay off his credit card debts and I will be very happy .when we go out I will allway paid the bills but some times he will paid too . I have no problem at all because I love him and I don't care about the money .
I was very happy with him and he is really close to me ,everyday he will be home as soon as he can ,then he will play his Xbox till I gets in home and I cook the dinner ready for them ,I have two daughter live with us .he is very nice to the kids and kids loves him a lot .somt time I feel like he is my son because I have to do all the thing by myself .
I will give him everything I can , his birthday ,Xmas I will gave him very nice gift ,but he gave me nice gift as well .. I don't think I am his Suger MAMA ,because I never gave he money and he does gave me very nice gift too . he is the first man in my life will sent me flowers and he take me to all his family we spent thanks giving and Xmas with his family and we feel very welcomed by his family . But one thing is always borders me because he always talking with a girl on the phone almost every day ,they text each other back and forth every day and she will call him 3 am and stay one the phone for aleast 30 minus almost everyday ! He told me first she is his cousin ,but than I found out she is not ,he told me she lost his fiancee so she needs people to talk with ,at first I wasn't thinking that much ,but after 1 1/2 year ,he still never mention any thing to her he has girl friend and never ,I told him so many times I want to meet her but he always say maybe next time ,because she is not living in San Diego ,she in in Sacramento .When we in Sacramento,I asked him if we can meet her ,he always told me we don't have time ,but all his dose is playing cards with his cousin, I finally can't stand this anymore ,so I got her phone number from his phone and made a call to her ,she was nice I asked her very nice way ,I told her I just want know what kinda of realtion ship between them ,she told me they are just friend . When he is home I told him I made call to kim .he said to me %26quot; see ,I told you she just a friend %26quot; I told him I am not happy about it ,because I still think he and kim are more than just friend .I told him I don't know if I can stand this ,but I will try ..he asked me %26quot; do you want me to call her to tell her not to contact me anymore ? I said %26quot; I don't know what to do ,I guess I just have to make my choice stay in with you or not . he said : baby ..I am so in love with you and I will notHe is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?You have put everything into this relationship and I mean EVERYTHING! You have forgiven him over, over, and over only for him to keep breaking your heart and lying to you and making a fool of you.How do you know what to believe when everything from him has been nothing but a lie? He's a habitual liar and you know he was cheating you just know it hurts too much to accept it.You loved someone he pretended to be, an image that he portrayed. He didn't put forth any effort into wanting a relationship with you, but took advantage of your kindness, your home, your money and everything.It wasn't a healthy relationship because it was based on NOTHING but lies and deceit.He proposed to you to make you not suspect anything between him and Kim.With you hounding him about the cheating and lies, he knew he couldn't keep it up forever and called off the wedding.Hope can you believe him when he lies about everything? I think you're living in denial because reality hurts too much.You got nothing but heartache after heartache with him and the fact that he cheated on his ex tells you about his character, he is a CHEATER, a very selfish man.He takes all he can from someone to get what it is he is wanting at the time.Of course he's not going to admit to looking at underage porn because it's ILLEGAL.Sometimes we love someone with all of our hearts and do everything in our power to make them love us but the truth is, you can't make someone love you and obviously he never did by cheating,lying and taking advantage of your generosity. it doesn't matter if you make more money than a man that doesn't give a license to support them but a man that loves a woman would contribute.Don't try to rationazlize this behavior because there's no justification for it.It's just truly sad how he broke your heart but better now then after having married him.He's going to lie and lie to keep himself from getting caught about things he's doing wrong and the fact that you chopose to believe him is why he knows he can get away with it.You have self-esteem issues to tolerate such behavior and for so long and I highly recommend you get yourself into therapy for it and to get over this.Good LuckHe is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?uh..yes.He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?Oh my freaking god! This is NOT a question. This is a vent session from a 38 year old woman trying to grow a little boy up to man status. NOT going to happen. I didn't even have to read your novel to tell you that.He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?give it up already. he's a liar and he's not going to stop lying. for me, lying is a deal-breaker and he would have been long gone. He knows you are desperate for a man so he can play you all he wants because you are more afraid to be alone than you are to be with someone who lies and disrespects you.
take Amy's advice and dump him and put yourself out there to meet other people. don't waste any more time on him. once he's gone then you'll be available to find the person who you deserve. right now you are settling.
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if he's viewing kiddie porn then I'd be afraid to have him around my daughters. Pedophiles often move in with some desperate woman and then begin grooming her kids for abuse. The woman is then so invested in the creep that she ignores his bad qualities and willingly sacrifices her children for the sake of having a warm body in her bed.
LOSE THE CREEP. DON'T ENDANGER YOU DAUGHTERS. GET RID OF HIM BEFORE HE STARTS ABUSING THEM. OPEN YOUR EYES.He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ? You are dealing with a PLAYER I am sorry to say . The proper thing to do would be to hang up on the other woman and NOT to discuss the relationship beyond the man! If the man loves you he will notify you himself . Never stand in line for a # 2 position and always remember YOU CANNOT CONTROL how 2 ppl feel about each other. If they truely are friends then that is what it is and you will never change this . As for you marrying him . You are a fool until he proves himself . PS ... He may WANT you to call b/c he is insecure about the fact he NEEDS you to love him ....but really now ....DO YOU WANT A MAN who is not secure with his feelings and in the TRUST he wants from you . I hope you are stronger than that or your marraige will never last . GOOD LUCK . It is true what they say you know ...most men have a women in every port, or at least try to........... .... He is in Navy and we broken up via email ,he lies about everything, How bad for me to call his ex girlfriend ?You need to work on your self esteem and realize a leopard doesn't change its spots.It's sad what happened but you asked for it by allowing it for so long. As far as your daughters, with him being into kid porn, I would ask them if he ever touched them in the wrong way and BELIEVE them! Me pry on women with daughters to date to get to the daughters to sexually abuse.You need to get out of denai fast and worry and find out if he ever did anything to your daughters and you probably think he never would but ask them and make sure they understand what you're asking them.Kids keep that stuff a secret because they're too scaredand ashamed to tell anyone! It's important you think about them and find out.
