Hi! I'm a 14 year old girl, and as you can tell from the question above I have one problem: I cant go outside! It's not even in the sense where I had some kind of privilege and lost it, and trust me that's not the case. I am not even being over dramatic! If my mom didn't have the early morning shift I probably wouldn't even walk to school (even in one of the arguments I brought it up, and I said this exact thing, and she agreed)! I can't even remember the last time I was even allowed outside to run a simple errand! Then on the rarest of occasions when she does let me run an errand, my apartment has a view of the street so as you can guess she watches to see if I cross at the right time, and look both ways, and all that other good stuff...
Now I don't ask for much, and my mom knows I'm good kid, seriously I am, I have straight As, when my friends want to skip class I go instead. I read, for fun! I never disrespect her, and I always do my best to openly express how much I love her! Next to my other two sisters I am a saint.
Summer is coming up and all my friends will, most predictably, be going outside. So as does every senior in middle school, I'd like to enjoy my time with them while I can. Why in fact my friends went out for my other friend's birthday and they ended up seeing a celebrity, but of course I wasn't there and I missed it!
In my little apartment, I have a laptop. I do not have to share this laptop it is all my own, along with a Xbox 360, Nintendo Ds lite, and DSi. Then there is my iPhone, of which I've learned to dread. For it is with this device- these devices that I am a prisoner! So what if I have an Xbox 360, it's nothing if I don't even have friends over to enjoy it with! Nintendo, enough said there... and my iPhone is just a phone my mom brought me because I foolishly thought that she'd magically change her mind and grant me permission to go outside then. Boy was I wrong! All it did was add to the lock and key I was under in the first place only this time she can keep tabs on me. Which in the past she's done before. To make it even worse she even has a Facebook, so my laptop is no longer a safe haven for me.
Trust me when I say, that my argument is not just some whiny little fourteen year old girl begging for freedom I haven't earned. My points are valid, and my where I'd like to go, harmless. For example the movie. Please be quiet as you read this part of it, because if I utter the words the discussion is officially over. The movies is literally a mile away from where I live, so as you can imagine I chose the closest and most comfortable place for my mom. By bus 5 maybe 15 minutes tops to get there, and the parking is free so she could even go down there herself and get me. Not to mention I have a cell phone. But to my mom it truly is a heart-attack waiting to happen.
All I want to do is hang out with my friends, and the only argument my mother can give me is, %26quot;You're too young.%26quot; While by the age of 9 she was walking 5-10 miles to god knows where doing god knows what.
So if you can offer any help, or advice that would be the biggest help!
Thank you, Keisha!How Can I Convince My Mom into Allowing Me to Go Outside?Maybe shes being over protective of you because something happened to her in her past? Who knows. But I'm 15, about to be 16, so I can semi-relate to your age. Maybe if you and your friends were to walk to the movies, or take he bus, then you could stay on the phone with your mom the whole time until you get there, so she knows your okay. When me and my friend were younger, probably about 13 or 14, we would walk over from her house to her gmas, or vis versa, and we would keep it on speaker til we got there. Just offer this as a suggestion to her. Or maybe she could just drop you and your friends off? You could call her halfway through the movie, which seems like a bother, but it would make her feel safer about you, and then when the movies over. Since you have a cell phone, you could just offer those suggestions and see what she says. its worth a shot. :) Hope this helps...How Can I Convince My Mom into Allowing Me to Go Outside?That is REALLY weird. Why would your mom want to lock you away like that? It isn't normal and could even be considered child abuse in the form of deprivation. She's totally depriving you of a life. 14 is too YOUNG to hang out with friends?! The only way I can possibly imagine that your mom would act that crazy is because maybe one of your sisters did something truly awful, and now your mom is scared about you messing up, too?
You need to have a serious sit-down talk with your mom and tell her that you need to be able to live a normal life, and that it isn't her right to just keep you locked up in your apartment. You are a human, not a pet. She isn't doing you any favors by acting this way. If anything, you won't know how to deal with real life when you have to go off to college.
I hope for your sake it works out!How Can I Convince My Mom into Allowing Me to Go Outside?Tell your mom:
1. You wont talk to strangers
2.You want exercise
3.You will get depression from lack of sun!!
4.You will have a cell phone and tell when you ll be home!
5.You want a tan ha ha idk
this is so weird haha
